SMJ-4

SMJ-4

I feel sad…dejected…as I write this.

I need to clarify this at the very outset that I Am Not going to Justify any wrong doing here…..

Imagine us Doctors….we sat there viewing the whole episode, that in the end somehow brought everyone of us Medical professionals, into the witness box….and we were made to feel guilty....all of us…of acts that we may not have done at all….

If I get a Labour [delivery] call now, I’ll rush to the hospital and try to do the best I can for the mother and her baby….and what would I feel if the patient or the attendants ask me,
“ma’am  are u sure u need to get all these investigations done”,
OR
 “are u sure u are doing the right thing not doing a Caesarean on my patient”,
Or
“are u sure u Do need to do a Caesarean ??!!”……………

How will I convince my patient who needs a Hysterectomy, but after having watched smj, is totally uncertain and has lost all faith in a Doctor !! how miserable she’d be…..bcoz after all, a Patient-Doctor relationship is based only and only on Mutual Faith !!.....

I ask myself, “Is it all really worth it ??!!!........every moment, walking a tight-rope ??!!”
Why do I care ??”.....

But ironically, I Do…….

And inspite of everything, I’ll collect myself and try to do whatever best I can so that she leaves my Chamber and Hospital with a smile on her face………….

Smj Has Reach now…..it should use this power very very properly….generalizing anything might do more Harm than Help at times……..

Kahi aisa naa ho, that whatever shreds of Faith are remaining, of a patient on the doctor, go to shambles now……

Kahi aisa naa ho, that now if someone gets a pain-abdomen, due to lack faith, he suffers more of psychological stress than the physical ailment itself….

Kahi aisa naa ho, that because of the negativities, the ppl who are willing to, and are doing good get discouraged….this will be an irreversible blunder…..

Yes, Doctors are the Intelligent Lot…fine…and hence, as he said they can then employ very many ways and means to earn money…..then why don’t they go for easier methods….why do they slog all their lives…..always having to cope up with everyone around…..authorities, patients, staff….yes, even the lower most ones…..and to get what….perennial dissatisfaction from the family for not being able to be there with them as much as they should ??!!.......
…….sochne wali baat hai…..

Zaraa si Gandagi bhi safed chaadar par ujaagar ho jaati hai…..wahin ek pehle se mailey kapde par toh kitna bhi keechad uchhalo, uska kuchh nahi bigadta !!! such is the situation of us in this profession…..

And again I would like to say that because doctors are the more Decent and Read ppl of the lot, they tend to keep mum to maintain the decorum of their personality, not stooping low to place their stand…..and go on with their work as Health Care professionals taking everything in their stride quietly and politely……

How can we justify the increasing abusive behavior and man handling of doctors that’s on a high now…..
And still it is so ridiculous that We are the ones, expected to behave Sanely in a Saintly manner !!....

Now a little bit about Hysterectomy…..

Again, I don’t say that any surgery done when not indicated is right, yet I just want to bring some points in Light here…..

…the biggest culprit is our society and its roodhiwaadi orthodox customs. Most of you will agree that even in our homes, a woman is kept Isolated for those days when she is in her periods….exceptions in metros might be there, but mostly the scenario is such that during those days she’s kept away from Kitchen work and because then the work comes onto the MIL etc, or sometimes on husband, the days are really Broadcast…when everyone in the family and neighbors etc too come to know when and for how many days the woman was menstruating….and that’s not all, every single day that goes beyond 5 days is taken against her every month…..
At long last even if she is having just spotting but her periods last for 7-8 days she is taken to the gynaec….and when asked, “kya takleef hai?”, she says….. “mera mahina bigad gayaa hai !!!!!”……now they want a treatment that she should menstruate the way they want,
… in the quantity that they want,
….and for the duration too that they want !!
.....is this possible???,
 and then anything deviating from their wants is taken as a dreadful disease and the pt is labeled that….“iski bachchaadaani kharaab ho gayi hai”…..
…..and then they ask….is there any permanent solution other than surgery?....
…..when you say No…..thats it….that becomes the last nail on the coffin…..and then the family is bound to get that poor uterus out by hook or by crook……

Now God forbid, if a pt has an erosion, or a small innocent fibroid, the gynaec has to report that…..and the next question that pops up is……will it go completely with medicines??..... the course that it’ll take is not clearcut or predictable…..hence again….they want surgery….

The reproductive age of a woman is going on increasing with Menarche earlier and Menopause much later, periods of amenorrhoea very less because of less no of children , compared to the olden days when most of the time the women were either pregnant or in lactational amenorrhoea…..hence more the number of periods…..and the deviations too….

Life expectancy has been increasing hence is the risk of disease….

Lap Tubectomies….LTTs ie…done in huge numbers in Camps lead to seeding of infections due to poor sterilization, catering to such large amounts at a time….in turn more of intractable PID cases…..

STDs are going on increasing with Polygamous practices….

Level of Threshold from clinicians is lowering due to Demand Of Safe and Permanent treatment options…..

Zaraa sochiye….is it just the doctors responsible for hysterectomies of a whole village ?? we are talking about a major surgery here....it takes no less than God to convince so many ppl with only wrong intention…
…..if only doctors could do that, then the VT programs would have been a grand success too….

So my appeal is…Beware…Before its too late……

There is Good, AND There is Bad !! its neither Only Gud, nor Only Bad….

May Discrimination Power prevail……………………

…..Satyameva jayate…………..

Cricket and Cars ??!! :)

Hiyaa all !!

“What words beget Boys’ undivided attention ??!!”.......

Chalo lets leave that question for a while…..
Pata hai kya…..i was just jumping through the channels with my remote…. When suddenly something Red, Very Rich Red crossed by……I switched back to that channel where it was….and I stuck there.…. :)

As is obvious, it was one movie promo….the frst face that I glanced on was of Sharman Joshi and a Red-Red FERRARI !!!!....yes a real one !! :)
I went on……What was this ?!!....

……onto the Khoj-been about it !!

…and here’s what revealed itself…
The movie is

 “Ferrari ki Sawaari !!”:)

….and before I could think that it was some mediocre comedy, it crashed on me that it was a Vidhu Vinod Chopra Movie !! well well, I was all smiles !! :)
It is directed by Rajesh Mapuskar !! now who’s he ?!!......to rest ur discomfort, he is Rajkumar Hirani’s assistant, and this movie is his brain-child, wherein Sharman is Debuting as the Lead Actor !! :)

Its not some uproarious hahahuhu comedy, but a combo of sentiments, emotions, drama, and situational comedy….
To add to it, Pritam’s Music is Guddam-gud !! :)

The Ferrari shown in it is a Real one, and that too none other than the one owned by Master Blaster, Sachin himself, that he sold/gifted [I know not]….to his entrepreneur friend Jayesh Desai…who in turn wanted it for his niece !!! Niece ??!!!!.....kyaa yaar, aisaa bhi hota hai…hain jee….humko to real Ferrari dekhne ya real mey touch karne ko nai milne ki aur ye janaab, “Niece” ko Gift kar rahe hain !!!!! Waah re Uparwale…Ajab teri Dunia aur Gajab tere Khel !!!!....siiiiigh !!.... :)

Now this remains to be seen whether the Little Master’s gonna be playing a comeo in it or not….becoz the Car is actually playing its Real Life Character of “Sachin Tendulkar’s Ferrari” !!! :)

Ek aur “Aakarshan” hai is movie mey….Vidya Balan !!!!!!.......aur dil thaam ke suniye….she’s doing an ‘Item number’ ….. “Malaa Jau De !!”:)
Word is doing the rounds that it has been shot perfectly too…
Par ek baat bolu…..i have my doubts…..
I saw the song…..and saw the not-so-thin Vidya doing Laawni in a somewhat slow number, replaying all….yes, ALL her overtly coquettish gestures and expressions. Now it remains to be seen whether the ‘Dirt’ will work for her all over again….
And that too when the Ferrari goes on flaunting itself all through the movie… !! :))))

It’s a heart warming story of small guys with their Big dreams…
Aur, ek baat to satya hai, that releasing on 15th June, ….with Sharman, Boman Irani and THE Ferrari…..it sure gonna be a joyride !!...... :)

Coming back to my question,

“What words beget Boys’ undivided attention ??!!.......

Among many things they are, “Cars and Cricket !!!” :)
…..and that’s what this movie is all about !!! :)

So get-set and…vVVVRRRRrrooooooom………….. :)

SMJ-2

Episode-2, “Satyamev Jayate !!”…

Switched on the TV for the second episode, with crossed fingers.
No, I wasn’t in the least on to finding flaws or loop holes….not at all…any attempt at anything society-friendly, was good enough for me.

So, I was plain simple anxious, because I wanted it to go on……
The episode ended….and I was sitting there….with tearfilled eyes….but with a big Smile !!...feeling, only - Relief !!!!..... :)

I wasn’t at all concerned what any other person might think, but had made my own standards that I wished it would fulfill in the subsequent episodes….and it Had in this one…!! :)

To say the least, this Sunday morning hasn’t been generous to me…my son was running 103*F temp….my hubbs, a busy surgeon was about to go to the hospital….and I had some how managed to sit in front of TV at 11 am. Hubby dearest, inspite of being in a great big hurry, sat with me, and the moment we saw the kids in there, about to be instructed, he got up and brought the dull feverish child from the bedroom and placed him gently on my lap so that my son could also see first hand, what was being told. And surprisingly, he understood too….

Just few minutes back I myself had a one-to-one conversation with my kids…..about the issue, and they gladly employed me and their papa as their “Bodyguards” !! :)

At least I am in no risk of forgetting the child helpline no-1098, nor are my Kids !! :)

I was amazed at the ease in which such a difficult thing was explained to the most difficult audience….viz, KIDS !!....

Aamir had done it again….with Finesse, Ease, Conviction and to Perfection !!....not to forget, being Entertaining as well !! :)

He had done the relevant homework, and yet again….
Did have an answer…again having at least something solid that each and everyone in the audience could do…to contribute….

He Is making a Difference….
Social Reforms may not come in a day, But they are Underway with this show….involving each and every person alike…..

Every Genuine effort should be appreciated, however irregular, however incomplete, however small it may seem to some of us…..IF it is headed in the right direction !!...and this Show Sure Is…….
I for one, got another message loud and clear.……if you do believe in something….go ahead with it…..If it has to do any good, It will !!!...

Gradually we had started losing faith in the words “Satyamev Jayate”….which were slowly becoming just words…..
But now I am confident, the Meaning will Not be Lost !!!

-amen

Thinking aloud...: Satyamev-Jayate...?!!

Thinking aloud...: Satyamev-Jayate...?!!: hello ppl !! “Satyamev-Jayate !!”……“Truth alone prevails !!” Is it that simple ? no, it isn’t. In the era of Ramayana, there was this...

Satyamev-Jayate...?!!

hello ppl !!

“Satyamev-Jayate !!”……“Truth alone prevails !!”

Is it that simple ? no, it isn’t.

In the era of Ramayana, there was this plain simple truth, with no adulteration….

but later, in Mahabharata…..was it the same ? no….it wasn’t….for making the truth finally prevail, lots and lots of calculations, manipulations, went underway…..

So, its not just saying, truth alone prevails…making it happen has much more to it…..

First requisite, is to understand the problem, the gravity and depth of it…

And then the ways and means to make it happen. Wo kehte hain naa….saam-daam-dand-bhed !!



Promotional ads started showing about this reality show hosted by Aamir Khan by the name of Satyameva Jayate….to be telecast at the Sunday prime time slot 11 am…the same that was allotted to Ramayana and later Mahabharata.

The way he talked in the ads was ok, but I just felt a tinge of ‘attitude’ in it. Any and everywhere it was about the show….the moment my laptop’s homepage came to life, there was this big ad filling half of it….the channel’s logo at the top of my tv screen had the head of Aamir on it all along…everywhere….



The rapport of being a perfectionist, fine, so it has to be a show with a difference alright for the sole reason that it was Aamir Khan’s baby, but considering the huge propaganda, I had only “huh, it remains to be seen whether the hype is worth it” for it….and obviously, was curious too…….



I missed out seeing it in the morning, but luckily got the repeat telecast at night and thankfully from the beginning. He was walking on the beach talking to us. Yes he was talking to us….this is not so with everyone. The art of communicating, of conversing with one and all, is rare, more so convincingly being honest and sincere…



……….and then it all started, started hammering down, one after the other….shocking everyone…!!!



When any two people start a conversation, they being two very different and discrete individuals, there are bound to be differences in opinions. Then how did this miracle happen ?!! that innumerable people stayed sort of hypnotized for those 90 minutes All Over The World !!!!!!!!

they were feeling what he wanted them to feel, crying when he knew they would, reacting the way he wanted them to, how is it that in the end every one was actually restless to do something substantial for the issue…now this every one comprises of such vast variety of people….



Because he had actually become “Them”, feeling the pain they felt, the frustration that they felt, touched their souls…..and as a bonus, having a solution too, moving one step ahead when they had seemingly laid down their arms…..surrendered….



It was  a Phenomenon…..that he made to happen…to every Indian….



Now people who want to criticize are saying, whether he’d be able to sustain the magic in the episodes to follow, whether the other 12 issues would be as significant, etc etc etc…..

I find it so ridiculous !! and this does go on to prove that even if u want to do gud for others, with no selfish reasons, u have to be prepared for enduring their criticisms as a side effect.



Now the problem…want to add my own opinion for that. Lets see an analogous situation…imagine someone keeping the doors and windows open and inviting the thief actually over a cup of tea to get the theft done in his house, how can then any amount of police or judiciary stop it ??? its all a matter of demand and supply….bad ppl are there everywhere, in every profession. Punishment to a meager number is not the  solution at all. We need to have a comprehensive approach.



Apart from the solution suggested in the show, what we need is,

-in the situation mentioned above, make the Property so Big and Precious that keeping it would become more profitable to the house owner than losing it to the thief….

For this we should make the privileges so many for the parents of a grl child, that having a daughter shud give them an equal stature in society as those boasting of having a son…eg…railway and flight tickets fees everywhere, shud hav significant concessions for girls, parents of first girl child and even more for parents of second girl…etc

I am dealing with pregnancy and childbirth first hand and believe me, programs like Ladli Lakshmi do work and make the having of a grl child not so disheartening….such programs can be increased…

And Govt Can do it….u will hardly find a pregnant woman, however remote village she resides in, to have had at least 2 doses of tetanus toxoid injections…..if this is possible, that can be too….



-half of the salary of a husband should automatically go to the account of his wife, whether she stays in sasural or mayka…and the husb shouldn’t be able to get divorce and remarry till she herself says that in writing…so that the grl’s parents are allayed of their fears about their daughters after marriage….



-educating the girls is of Utmost importance, making them self reliant, and independent… to take care of themselves….



-the difference between a boy and a girl should end….1 or 2 kids, that’s all. This can come only through awareness…..when a girl conceives and goes through the whole gestation period and finally delivers, she luves her “Child” whoever it is….its actually the attitude of her family, and relatives which makes her feel guilty if it’s a grl and proud if it’s a boy….



We need to spread this awareness in whatever domain we work in….from the moment we come out of our house, whatever human being we meet, whether our family, friends, staff or patients or their relatives, acquaintances etc….we shud give this message to each one of them… because, Yes we are a stronger Jadoo Ki Chhadi, our reach is much more….and we reach the hearts easier……



It may take some time for a Woman to luv her kind…..but it wont be Forever !!!.....


so lemme quote here...
Ho gayi hai peer parbat see pighalni chaahiye,

Is Himalay se koi Ganga nikalni chahiye…



Aaj ye Deewar Pardon ki tarah hilne lagi,

Shart lekin thi ki ye Buniyaad hilni chahiye…



Har Sadak par Har Gali me Har Nagar Har Gaanv mein,

Haath lehrate hue har Laash chalni chahiye…



Sirf Hungama khada karna mera maksad nahi,

Saari koshish hai ke ye Soorat Badalni Chahiye…



Mere Seene me nahi toh tere seene mey sahi,

Ho kahin bhi Aag, lekin Aag jalni chahiye……

Ho kahin bhi Aag, lekin Aag jalni Chahiye….....-poem by Dushyant Kumar



-amen :)